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Listen to Yourself Talk

November 30, 2014 by HealthyFamilies BC

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Listen to yourself talk – and think about what your tone is saying, as well as your words.


Listen to your tone instead of your words. At times, it’s not what you say, but the way you say it that makes an impact. Kids sense what their parents are feeling. Often, they’re not listening to your words so much as looking at your face and reacting to the tone of your voice.

Talk to your child as though you’re composing a song. “Parent-child communication is composed of both music and lyrics”, comments Michael Thompson. “When someone listens to music, he may focus on either the melody (your tone of voice) or on the lyrics (your words). Children are always listening to the melody (or tone) of a parent’s voice. Sometimes as parents we pay more attention to our lyrics.”

Listen to yourself from your child’s perspective. If you feel a conflict brewing, ask yourself, “Would I like to be spoken to this way?” If you don’t like the way you sound, ask yourself, “Am I mad about something without realizing it?”

Your tone speaks louder than your words
If your tone and words are in sync, you are giving a clear message. If there is a discrepancy, your child might wonder, “What do you really mean?” If you are saying angry words without emotional conviction, it’s confusing. Your child might wonder what is really bothering you.
– Susanna Neumann, PhD, child psychoanalyst consultant, Rockefeller University

© Raising Children Network Limited, reproduced with permission.

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