We have such good intentions and many of us – the “resolutionists” – set all kinds of goals at the start of the year. What’s the difference between people who stay motivated to meet their goals and those who don’t? This is a million dollar question.
When we plan to improve our health by setting a goal, we don’t always think about why we aren’t already doing it. There are reasons we develop behaviours that might not be considered healthiest for us.If we only focus on how we will benefit from a change, then when obstacles come up it can seem easier to give up on the goal than to keep it.
Before you start working towards a new goal, observe yourself. Take a week to observe your current behaviours. Think about behaviours that occur instead of the ones you want to occur.
- What’s motivating me to continue to do something (or to not do something) I know I want to change?
- What will I lose out on, or have to give up, to reach my goal?
- What are the situations in which I do (or don’t do) the behaviour I want to change?
For example, some people skip breakfast so they can have an extra 10 minutes of snooze time in the morning. Some people eat at night so they feel less stressed, lonely or sad. Some people miss their pilates class to help their kids with their homework. Consider the reason (or reasons) why you’re doing what you’re doing now.
If you set a resolution and are finding it tough to stick to it, or are wanting to do something different, take the next week to start with this. Just observe.
Then, check out this step by step guide on how to put your observations to use and make a plan for success.